Have you ever stopped to think how you got where you are? I mean, how you wound up with your purrticular life; your career, the place you call home, your hobbies, etc.
Do you realize that most everything that’s happened to you or that you’re doing in your life right now, is a result of your purrsonal choices?
It’s true. For instance, I was born to the feral life, but as I got older and health issues gained more power over my body, I realized that each day was a bit more difficult and that I could either stay with the known life OR I could choose something else. Thus, I began looking for options. Eventually, my focus centered on becoming the owner of a human staff, and I quickly realized that not all humans behave the same, so by the process of choice, I chose my family. They are not purrfect, and they expect certain things from me, but that is part of any good compromise. In my case, I get a comfortable house, fresh water, healthy food and a nice selection of boxes, but I had to accept things like annual vet checkups and all the embarrassment that includes. And I am very thankful that I took the time to think about the future I wanted, then made the appropriate choices to get it.
If you love your current life, that’s great, but if you don’t, please accept my challenge to the responsibility for your life and change your future…. It’s hard to admit that our own choices have led to failure, regret, shame, or simply a failure to launch in the direction we really want for ourselves, but it isn’t super difficult to acknowledge that if we change our choices, we’ll change our lives and/or our futures.
Your future is not limited, unless you choose to make it so.
That said, realize that very choice we make has a consequence, even the smallest choices. You might choose to skip grooming your coat one time, then, since your fur looks okay, you do it again, then again until it’s a matted mess that only clippers can control.
Repeated choices become our habits — these can be either good or bad.
Our habits become who we are.
Here are 6 ways to make good choices and claim your personal power:
1. Define Your Personal Values: I’ve learned to measure every choice against my personal values. If a choice doesn’t align with my values, the result will likely cause me some grief either in the long run or short term.
2. Become Aware: many choices are unconscious. But now that you realize that every choice you make could set you off on a trajectory toward success or failure, happiness or misery, confidence or remorse, won’t you take the time to become aware and consider your choices more carefully?
3. Realistically Imagine the Outcome: Carefully consider the possible outcomes of your choice. Feel free to make lists of what you do and/or do not want. If I hadn’t questioned living feral, then given myself the luxury of deciding on the future I wanted, and the family I wished to adopt, my life would be very different…. in fact, I might have gone over the rainbow by now.
4. Seek Guidance and Ask others: Sometimes you might not know enough on a ‘big choice’, so you start feeling overwhelmed or confused. This is when it’s smart to phone a furiend. Carefully select two or three trusted furiends or advisers whose judgment you value and/or someone you feel has good knowledge of the subject. Tell them about your choice, show them your list of pros and cons, and ask for their opinions. Mom and Pops are quite opposite and they see things from very different purrspectives, so they usually ask one another first, but they also will research things many ways.
5. Make Choice Automatic with Habits: By creating solid habits from your daily choices, you streamline the process and spend less time. For instance, if you create a daily habit of exercising, then you just do it. You don’t think about it. Learn how to create good, sustainable habits, then you can transform any good choice into a regular habit, but to accomplish this, you need to learn how your purrticular mind works so you can reprogram your thoughts in whatever way that your new, better choices become automatic. (The same holds true for bad choices that have become bad habits. By learning the skills of creating good habits, you can learn how to replace those unwanted bad habits with a positive new habit.)
6. See Every Day as a New Opportunity: It doesn’t matter how many poor choices we’ve made in the past. Today is a blank slate and it’s the first day of the rest of your life… Each of us has the opportunity to start fresh, whenever we choose!
In conclusion, you control your destiny through your daily choices, your habits, and your willingness to change your direction to avoid an unpromising future. If you want a different future, grab the reins of your life, decide what you want, then make the choices that will bring that life that you, too will be thankful for.
Mr. M =^.^=
I’m including this post in Brian’s Thankful Thursday Blog Hop.